Saturday, July 26, 2014

If You Have The Choices, Choose

No, no, no. Women do not HAVE TO follow the husbands.

This sentence was popping into my mind again and again when I heard a conversation where somebody is telling a 20-y.o. girl about relationship, and I really regret not having interrupted the conversation and say it out loud.

I don't know about you guys, but I think everybody needs to go for their dreams and hopes and do what they are most passionate about; when that means being wherever your loved one is, then go for it. But it doesn't have to be the ONLY way.

This is 2014, most women have the privilege to choose what they can do with their lives. Yes, some might want to travel the world. Yes, some might want to be a CEO. Yes, some might want to be a housewife and take care of the children. Yes, some can work and still take good care of the house. Yes, some don't even want to have children. Yes, some might even choose to be single forever. So what? Why not? Life is a choice, if you believe in it, you can do it, I say go for it.

Do you know what bothers me sometimes?
That some women don't have any choice.

Some women are forced to be married young, or forced to leave a job, forced to live alone, forced to do abortion, forced to do things without another choice.

So when a girl so young pops out, having so many choices, I personally do not think it is wise to say what she has to do, especially when the choice is so given that she should sacrifice whatever she plans to do when she got married. WHY?

I'd say you should find the person that is willing to compromise with you, so that both can have your ways to fullfill your destiny. Of course sometimes one has to give more, but a healthy relationsip is when both grow together. Especially because we are not living in the '40s and we do have choices.

Real love makes you a better person.
What kind of person is that? You decide.